Help! My Husband Wants Me to Make Up with My Mom

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice. So, here’s the deal: I haven’t spoken to my mom for three months. We had a huge fight, and I ended up blocking her everywhere and putting her on my blacklist. It was a really intense argument, and I felt like I needed space. But now, my husband, Mark, is insisting that I make up with her. He keeps saying that family is important and that I should be the bigger person.

Honestly, I’m torn. On one hand, I get where Mark is coming from. Family is important, and I do miss my mom sometimes. But on the other hand, the fight was really bad, and I’m still hurt by some of the things she said. I don’t even know how to start the conversation or if I’m ready to forgive and forget.

I’ve talked to my friends, Natalie and Ellie, about it, and they have mixed opinions. Natalie thinks I should reach out and try to mend things, while Ellie says I should wait until I’m truly ready. My brother, Roy, is staying out of it, and my sister, Sofia, is on my mom’s side, which makes things even more complicated.

So, what do you all think? Should I listen to Mark and try to make up with my mom, or should I wait until I feel more ready? And if I do decide to reach out, how should I go about it? Any tips on breaking the ice after such a long time?

Thanks in advance for your help!