Seeking Advice on Family Dynamics and Divorce Intervention

Dear Society Members,

I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to seek your advice on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart. My son, Matthew, has been married to his wife, Kasia, for several years. I must confess, I have never been particularly fond of Kasia; her disorganized nature has always been a point of contention for me. However, despite my feelings, I have always respected my son’s choice and tried to maintain a peaceful relationship with her for the sake of family harmony.

Recently, Matthew confided in me that he was considering divorcing Kasia. This news caught me by surprise, and despite my previous reservations about her, I found myself advising him against it. I believe that while Kasia may be messy, she accepts Matthew for who he is, and their problems, though frustrating, are not insurmountable. I encouraged him to reconsider, highlighting the importance of acceptance and compromise in marriage.

Now, I am left questioning whether my intervention was appropriate. On one hand, I feel that as a mother, it is my duty to guide my son through difficult times. On the other hand, I worry that I may have overstepped my boundaries and influenced his decision based on my own biases.

I would greatly appreciate your perspectives on this situation. Was it right for me to intervene in their marital issues? How should I approach my relationship with Kasia moving forward, especially if they decide to stay together? Any advice on handling these delicate family dynamics would be immensely helpful.

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I look forward to your thoughts and guidance.

Warm regards,

Madeline