Feeling Left Out: Need Advice on Blended Family Dynamics

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice and support right now. My name is Nora, and I’m in a bit of a tough spot. My husband, Billy, has a son, Raymond, from his first marriage. Lately, it feels like Billy spends all his free time with Raymond, and it’s starting to take a toll on me and our son, Jeffrey.

Don’t get me wrong, I totally understand that Billy wants to be there for Raymond, especially since he doesn’t live with us full-time. But it’s gotten to the point where Jeffrey and I feel like we’re not even part of the picture anymore. Every weekend, every holiday, it’s all about Raymond. I feel like I’m competing for Billy’s attention, and it’s exhausting.

I’ve tried talking to Billy about it, but he just says that Raymond needs him more right now. I get that, but what about Jeffrey? He needs his dad too. And what about me? I miss spending time with my husband without feeling like I’m intruding on their “guy time.”

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you handle it? I don’t want to come off as selfish or make Billy feel like he has to choose between us, but I also don’t want to keep feeling like an outsider in my own family.

Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Nora