Struggling with Guilt After Placing Mom in a Care Home

Hey everyone,

I’m Robert, and I’m really struggling right now. A few weeks ago, I made the tough decision to place my mom in a care home. She’s been battling dementia, and it got to a point where I just couldn’t provide the care she needed at home anymore. I thought I was doing the right thing, but now I’m not so sure.

The last time I visited her, she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, “How could you do this to me?” Those words cut deep, and I can’t seem to shake them off. I feel like I’ve betrayed her, and the guilt is eating me alive. I keep replaying that moment in my head, and it’s making it hard to focus on anything else.

I know many of you might have gone through similar situations or know someone who has. How did you cope with the guilt? Did your loved ones ever forgive you? How do you deal with the constant worry that you made the wrong choice?

I’ve talked to my friends Bryan and Roger about it, and they’ve been supportive, but I still feel lost. Eva suggested I join a support group, and Serenity mentioned therapy might help. Eliana thinks I should visit Mom more often to show her I still care.

I’m open to any advice or suggestions you all might have. How do I make peace with this decision? How can I help my mom understand that I did this out of love?

Thanks for listening.