Help! My Mom is Upset Because I Won’t Let Her Take Care of Me

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice and support right now. My mom, Ruby, has been super emotional lately because I won’t let her take care of me the way she wants to. It’s not that I don’t appreciate her love and concern, but her way of “taking care” of me is actually causing me more harm than good.

For some context, I’m an adult and I feel like I need to make my own decisions and handle my own problems. But Ruby just can’t seem to let go. She insists on doing everything for me, from making my meals to managing my schedule. When I try to set boundaries, she gets really upset and starts crying, saying that I’m pushing her away and that she just wants to help.

I’ve tried talking to her about how her behavior is affecting me, but it always ends up in a huge emotional mess. I feel guilty for making her cry, but at the same time, I need to stand up for my own well-being. It’s like a never-ending cycle of guilt and frustration.

Jack, Vincent, Aaliyah, and Chloe, have you ever dealt with something like this? How do you set boundaries with a loved one without hurting their feelings? Any tips on how to communicate better with Ruby so she understands where I’m coming from? I really want to find a way to make her see that her actions, although well-intentioned, are actually making things harder for me.

Thanks in advance for any advice you can give. I just want to find a way to make this work for both of us.