Seeking Guidance: Handling a Difficult Reunion with My Ex-Husband

Dear Life Advice Society,

I hope this letter finds you well. My name is Naomi, and I am reaching out to your community in hopes of gaining some perspective and advice on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart.

Several years ago, I discovered that my ex-husband, Scott, had been unfaithful to me for a long time. This revelation shattered our family, leading to our eventual separation. Since our divorce, I have focused on healing and providing a stable and loving environment for our son, Logan.

Recently, Scott reached out with a request that took me by surprise. He asked if Logan and I could come to see him because he wants to say goodbye. This request came after a long period of minimal contact, where he barely engaged with Logan. My son, unaware of the full extent of the past issues, was moved and told me, “Mom, he wants to say goodbye.” Hearing this from Logan broke my heart all over again.

I am torn about this situation. On one hand, I believe it is important for Logan to have closure and possibly a final memory of his father. On the other hand, I am concerned about the emotional impact this meeting might have on both Logan and myself. Scott’s previous actions have left deep scars, and I am unsure how to prepare myself and my son for what might be an emotional encounter.

I am reaching out to you and your readers for advice on how to handle this situation. Should I facilitate this meeting? If so, how can I best prepare Logan and protect him from potential hurt? How do I manage my own mixed emotions while supporting my son?

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. Any insights or experiences you could share would be greatly appreciated.

Warm regards,

Naomi